‘I have panic and depression, I feel I cannot take a breath’ she said.
Hira had been experiencing low mood and low self-esteem for a long time, she had several miscarriages, and a hurtful relationship with her husband. ‘I feel the walls are closing in on me’ she told me one day, ‘I want to leave him; he always makes me feel inferior’.
Hira was referred to Home Link Family Support and received staff support from Katerina, the Family Support worker of the charity organisation. Hira needed time to be more confident to take action for her decision to flee, and to trust herself again. Katerina and Hira developed a relationship of trust through time, and they made a plan together.
On that particular morning, Hira was ready and had a slight smile on her face. ‘I feel anxious, but I am ready’ she said. Hira moved successfully to safe accommodation with her three children, and this was her third attempt. According to the Domestic Violence Prevention centre, most women will, on average, attempt to leave an abusive relationship between five and seven times before successfully and permanently doing so.
Hira, six months later, is a happier and healthier person. She still lives at the safe accommodation with her children, and enjoys life again. Hira also started looking after herself – even had a new haircut! She now receives counselling and attends group therapy, and she appreciates the input of all professionals who became involved.
‘New life, new me’ as she likes to say every time we meet…